this submission thing sef...

Every time u hear about man woman talk...u know nah trust, love, betrayal etc the next issue that comes up is respect and submission.About how its a man’s God given right to expect it from his woman (regardless of married status or not) sometimes bible quotes dey enter the bargain sef...(and usually QUITE misquoted.)lolThe ironic thing is, what a lot of men fail to understand is, in as much as every human being deserves respect (man, woman) in every sense of the word from elders, to family, to work, even the person who meet on the way...when it goes beyond the realm of mundane or platonic relationships to romantic... respect and submission SHOULD be earned, not taken by force, demanded or expected as a matter of fact. Its constantly funny to me when i hear men talk about how a woman didn’t respect them or follow their every command or “submit” to their understanding or logic, DID U EARN IT?Am not referring to financial or material needs, or the new car she wants or even that correct atampa or lace or gold she been drooling over.Ist and foremost, abeg if u dnt respect her...how EXACTLY shld she respect u?I mean, are u the one who listens to her hopes and fears and instinctively knows she doesn’t want a fix it solution, just to be heard and held? Why exactly do expect her to jump thru hoops to pls u wen u dont?Do u fulfil her emotional needs just as u expect her to fulfil ur sexual ones?Are u her sounding board in all things bizness, work and on an earthly level aside from her pastor or priest, spiritual?How possible is it to make decisions that affect the both of u and not include her?Is her opinion respected?How many times have u gone out of ur way to make her happy, just becos u can?When u control a woman, do u realize that she might just be humouring u for d moment and one fateful day if circumstances change it will backfire or end?Have u set her aside as ur one and only?Does she feel safe with u?Can she tell u her worst secret and u wnt judge her?These are just a few...but i can tell u...No sane good woman on the face of the earth would turn down or not appreciate a man who has her best interests at heart and puts her before everything on earth and respects HER. Submission follows NATURALLY...respect may even have been there from the start if she loves you or developed along the way...u can love anyone cos we dnt choose who we fall in love with. But u cant buy, barter or borrow an instinctive feeling that comes from being loved, taken care of and protected.Ok pple, these are my thots & since there r always opposing opinions, enjoy...